Generation Brexit

Remainers aren't all that bad

Liam Robson
Liam Robson | Jul 21, 2017 | in Swipe right for Remain

I've found that telling potential suitors that my interest in sustainable fisheries was a reason for voting Leave is more of a turn-off than the Leave vote itself. And that's quite understandable – fish aren't the sexiest of topics. 

My (of course incredibly active) love life since the referendum hasn't been consumed too much by referendum rematches. As it happens, I've only dated Remainers. The key to making it work is being open-minded and enjoying a bit of friendly debate – though I do put down some of my success to having a good sense for who may be the most rabid of Remainers on Tinder (usually an EU flag gives it away). 

I get the impression that those who are opposed to dating people who hold different views on the EU are, for the most part, the same people who are opposed to dating people who vote differently to them in general – the 'never kissed a Tory' crowd. 

It's understandable to want a relationship with someone who shares a similar outlook on the world to you. The problem is the phenomena of expressing disgust at the thought of even going for a drink with someone who voted differently – it reflects a more general rise in political intolerance. 

I definitely see this more from Remainers, but I matched with a guy recently who was a massive Farage fan and told me he didn't date Remainers because they're 'beta males'. It didn't go anywhere. 

Looking forward to hearing everyone's stories! 

Valeria Vigilante Jul 23, 2017

Personally speaking, I do not have anything against 'leavers'. Some students in my Politics class voted 'leave' and i did not stop talking to them just because of that. They had their arguments and their reasons, beyond the populist, 'Farage-style', thinking. On the other hand, I happened to meet people who voted 'leave' and begun to be very rude once my 'remain' position was clear (although I could not vote, being an EU citizen). I think that Brexit did not make people worse or better: you will meet nice people who voted 'leave' and bad people who voted 'remain', and vice versa.

Liam Robson Jul 23, 2017

I think it's true that Brexit didn't make people better or worse – it's just another form for people who are particularly politically intolerant to express that. What a shame that people are rude. A bit of healthy discussion can never hurt any friendship or relationship!

Sofia Munoz Gonzalez Jul 24, 2017

Hi Liam! hope all is well! Completely agree with your response, but at the same time ones reaction to either remain or leave, is very much contingent on who you are (EU or UK citizen). It must be a lot easier to date someone that chose Leave if one is a UK resident, as opposed to an EU one. It would most likely be hard to date someone that voted leave if you're an EU citizen trying to get to the 5 year mark in the UK in order to get permanent residency, and thus be able to stay.

Liam Robson Jul 24, 2017

Good point! The dynamics must be very different if there's an EU citizen involved in the relationship. I remember feeling slightly awkward on a date with someone from the EU – even if my reasons for voting how I did didn't have anything to do with kicking people out of the country, I can understand why it would make some people uncomfortable.